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opportunitiesA dear friend called me to discuss how one can discern between an opportunity that is brought from God and an opportunity that looks good on the outside, but is really just a distraction from what God wants you to do.  They had read my last post on how the enemy uses deception.  I wrote that one of the ways deception comes packaged is as an attractive opportunity – often one that looks like it might be from God.  So, my friend asked, how do you tell the difference?  I don’t have a sure-fire answer, but I felt God prompting me to flesh this out a bit more in a blog post today.  I believe that there are some basic truths that can guide us in discerning whether a particular opportunity is a blessing or a distraction:

  1. Opportunities Come From One of Two Sources – They either come from the hand of God, in which case they are a blessing, or they come from His enemy to distract us.  There are no other sources.  Either it is something that God is bringing into your life as a blessing to you and/or others, or it is something being brought to steal attention away from that which God would really have you focus on.  There are no other sources, no neutral or in-between options.  It’s either from God or against Him.
  2. God Has A Definite Opinion – I believe that God cares deeply about how you respond to this particular opportunity.  There is a thought I often hear in Christian circles that God doesn’t really care what particular opportunities we choose, as long as they honor Him.  I could not disagree more.  Scripture does not bear witness to a God that is distant or disinterested.  It doesn’t describe a God who is only engaged in our lives at key points, with just a casual awareness of us most of the time.  Instead, Scripture describes a God who comes to live in us – a God who cares deeply about everything from what we eat, what we wear, how we love, where we live, and every other little detail of our life.  He cares about whether we seize or pass up this particular opportunity.
  3. The Fruit of the Tree Bears Witness to the Nature of the Tree – I believe that one of the greatest indicators of whether a particular opportunity is a blessing from God or a distraction from His enemy is the reaction within our own spirit.  If an opportunity is coming from the Tree of Life, it will bear life-giving fruit in my life, even as I am discerning it.  For me that manifests itself as a growing sense of excitement and enthusiasm about the opportunity.  God gives me glimpses of my role and how He is going to use me.  I can’t stop thinking about it.  Yes, there is usually some fear and trepidation associated with it, but that is strongly overshadowed by my growing passion to be involved.  If instead, the opportunity is coming from the twisted tree of distraction, it will bear life-draining fruit in my life, even as I am discerning it.  For me, this manifests itself as a growing sense of dread.  I can imagine some potential wins, but I’m not passionate about my personal involvement.  I find myself motivated primarily by thoughts of “I should do this” rather than “I want to do this.”  My growing discontent makes me want to run.  I believe that God, living in us, helps us to have such strong emotions – positive or negative – to help lead us down the path He wants us to take.  I believe this one of the primary ways He answers our prayers for clarity.

What opportunities are you facing right now and how are you internally responding to it?

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distractionAs Jeff Griffin pointed out during last weekend’s message, a runner in a race keeps his attention on the finish line.  Doing otherwise could lead to disaster.  In our walk with Christ, it is equally important that we focus our attention on the prize, which is growing closer to Him and becoming more like Him.  Just like a runner, disastrous things can happen when we lose that focus.  It is not surprising that the enemy so often uses the tactic of distraction to oppose us.

It seems that the enemy’s most effective means of distraction in my life are:

  1. Unexpected Problems – just when everything seems to be going so well, it seems like the bottom falls out.  The dryer breaks down, the car engine light goes on, the kids get sick, and the dog eats the remote.  I don’t know about you, but my eye are diverted from the prize to the urgency of solving the problems.
  2. Attractive Opportunities – sometimes distraction comes packaged as a killer chance to get involved with something or be positioned for some type of impact.  The struggle with such opportunities is that they so often resemble a God-given open door.
  3. Heavy Responsibilities – Jesus tells us that His yoke is easy and His burden is light.  Yet, so many of us are so weighed down with the heaviest of responsibilities.  There are so many good things to involve ourselves in and dedicate ourselves to, and we keep adding and adding until we are almost crushed under the load.

Of course, straining past this deception involves the same activity as moving past the enemy’s deception, disconnection, and discouragement.  We really do need to keep our focus solely on Christ.

“Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” - Philippians 3:12-14

Together, let us keep straining toward what is ahead.

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discouragedWhenever we attempt something that we perceive as difficult or demanding, our success is based largely upon our courage.  Courage is the ability to press through, even when something is hard.  We intuitively understand that difficult endeavors bring a certain degree of risk.  Our personal degree of courage will often determine whether or not we will even attempt something that is tough.

Let’s face it, the journey of walking with Christ is not an easy one.  It is full of perceived risks and we need all the courage we can to embark in earnest upon that journey.  It’s not surprising, then, that one of the enemy’s most effective forms of opposition is discouragement.  To discourage means to cause someone to lose confidence or enthusiasm (another way to say courage).  And it makes a lot of sense that he would use this tactic.  If the enemy can discourage us, we might stop ourselves from walking, without any further intervention needed.

The enemy uses two particular assertions in trying to discourage us:

  1. Change is Impossible – on one hand, we feel God prompting us to change certain areas of our life, to grow in particular ways to be more like Him.  But the enemy seems to be lurking around just waiting to remind us that we’ve tried to change that area before and failed miserably.  While we might argue that we’ve made progress, he is quick to point out that we’ve actually made pitifully little real progress.  He’ll remind us of all the time and energy we’ve expended and he’ll soon have us asking what the point is in even trying.  And even if we do try, there is that nagging feeling that we all know how this is really going to turn out (again).
  2. Excellence is Impossible – Sometimes we feel God calling us to big things, to make a big impact for Him in some way.  But then there’s the enemy creeping around looking at what we’re doing and forever asking that condemning question, “Couldn’t you have done that better?”  That’s such an unfair question, because the answer is always “Yes!”  No matter how well we accomplished something, we could ALWAYS have done it better.  The question is loaded in the first place.  It makes us pause to take on something new, because if we aren’t excelling now, what is the point of taking on something else at which we won’t excel.

These assertions are so discouraging to us for two particular reasons.  First, the enemy’s argument for each assertion contains some degree of truth.  We have failed to make the kind of progress we desired.  We have not always been as excellent as we would’ve hoped.  The problem is that we make a quick mental leap that if any of the argument is true, the whole assertion must be true.  Second, both of these assertions and the arguments that support them are effective at taking our eyes off God so that we can focus upon ourselves.

The most powerful thing we can do to combat the enemy’s discouragement is to focus all our attention on God.  Answer his assertions with some of your own:  Change is possible with God! Excellence is possible with God! God has all we need for all that He wants, including helping us to be more like Him.

Where do you feel like the enemy is trying to discourage you right now?

Next time:  The last post in this series will about straining past the enemy’s use of distraction.

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lonelyI’ve always believed that a lonely Christian is a struggling Christian.  We were never meant to do this life by ourselves.  We were made in the image and likeness of God – a God of community. It was that way from the beginning.  Consider Adam.  Here is a guy who has it pretty good – he has a perfect relationship with God (free from sin), has the perfect job (rule over all the earth) and is in the perfect place (the garden – think Hawaii on steroids).  But God looks at Adam and recognizes that there is something wrong, saying, “It is not good for the man to be alone.”  Right from the very beginning, we were designed to need community and fellowship in our life.

So it is not surprising that the enemy would so often oppose us on our journey of spiritual growth by using the tactic of disconnection.  If he can isolate us from the important relationships through which God desires to bless us, we are far more likely to falter.  When the enemy is trying to isolate me, he usually tries to disconnect me from three life-giving relationships:

  1. Marriage - As we see in Genesis 2, one of God’s amazing tactics to combat aloneness (his first) was to create marriage and to hand pick a suitable partner for us.  God desires to bless us in countless ways through our spouse (love, respect, support, intimacy, joy – just to name a few), and desires to use us to bless our spouse in return.  If the enemy can disconnect me from Carol, he deprives us both from those awesome blessings.
  2. Close Friends – I belong to two small groups and I love and admire those guys.  I also have a handful of guys that I meet with individually for mutual support, encouragement and sharpening.  It’s the whole ‘iron sharpening iron’ thing.  These are all genuine Christian community, where we have the freedom to challenge one another and permission to hold one another accountable.  Rich growth in my life has resulted from these relationships.  If the enemy can disconnect me from them, he deprives me (and those with whom I would’ve met) of such growth.
  3. Church Family – We’ve all heard the arguments people use about not needing church to get to God.  That may be true, but I’ve yet to ever meet anyone who doesn’t attend church who is really enjoying God and thriving in their relationship with Him.  Our church family is vital to our walk with God.  My church provides a point of spiritual authority to which I willingly submit.  It also spurs me to grow by focusing my attention and efforts in particular areas – areas I might not necessarily go to on my own.  And it brings together like-minded people who also want to grow.  There is something about having others to help you in the journey that is empowering. The enemy knows that if he can disconnect us from our church family, then we’ll slow on our walk and maybe stop altogether.

Our first defense against a plotting enemy is to understand with clarity that these relationships pose a threat to him.  Because they bring us abundance in our walk with Christ, he will do all he can to disconnect us from them.  So Hebrews 10:25 warns us, “Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

How do you see the enemy actively trying to disconnect you, and what concrete steps can you take to counteract that?

Next time:  Straining past the enemy’s use of discouragement.

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2213373813_7ea47ec2d6_bAs I discussed in my last post, our journey as Christ-followers will never be easy…we will have to strain because we will always be opposed by an enemy that desperately wants to keep us away from that which is life-giving.  The first of the four main tactics of the enemy is deception.  To deceive is to lead someone to believe something that is untrue in order to gain personal advantage.  Paul warns the Corinthian believers about this. “But I am afraid that just as Eve was deceived by the serpent’s cunning, your minds may somehow be led astray from your sincere and pure devotion to Christ. For if someone comes to you and preaches a Jesus other than the Jesus we preached, or if you receive a different spirit from the one you received, or a different gospel from the one you accepted, you put up with it easily enough.” (2 Cor 11:3-4)

The enemy seeks to deceive us about many things, but Paul highlights three of these areas:

  1. The nature of God – The enemy is always trying to distort God’s character, intent and activity.  If we will believe the lies that God is a cosmic killjoy, ready to bully us around at the slightest infraction, (or worse), we won’t want to pursue being closer to Him, or to be more like Him.
  2. God’s direction – The enemy is always trying to confuse us with conflicting direction.  It would be one thing if those conflicting directions were always obvious, like robbing a bank or having an affair.  We know God would never direct us to do those things.  But the enemy is more devious than that.  He’ll prompt us to do things that look good, that we would even consider to be godly in nature.  However good they might be, though, if they aren’t the specific things God in which God wanted us to engage, they take us away from God and His intended path for us.
  3. The path of salvation – The enemy is always trying to distort our view of salvation.  Like the old roadrunner cartoons, where Wiley Coyote would attempt to change the roadsigns in order to get the roadrunner off course, the enemy wants to change our roadsigns.  If he can convince us that there is a different path to a life that satisfies, a life that works and a life that matters, then he draws us away from the real one.  It doesn’t matter how fast you run, if you’re running on the wrong path.

Of course, the greatest antidote to deception is truth.  One of the things I regularly do, especially when I’m feeling like maybe the enemy is trying to deceive me, is to ask myself the question, “What do I know that I know?”  This simple question takes me back to the basics – about God, His direction for my life, and the path to the life He wants for me.  These foundational truths are often enough to clear my mind.  How wise would we be to follow Paul’s advice?  “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

Next:  Straining past the enemy’s use of disconnection.

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run_logo_2-516x288This past weekend we started a new series at The Chapel called Run.  I’ve been so excited about this series for both myself and for our whole church, but when Senior Pastor Jeff Griffin kicked it off with one of my favorite verses in scripture, I felt God really stirring me up.  The passage is Philippians 3:12-14.  This is the famous verse where Paul shares his own approach to growing in Christ. “Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it.  But one thing I do:  Forgetting what is behind and…”  Wait for it.  “…and straining toward what is ahead…”  Paul doesn’t say “strolling”  or “striving” or “reaching” or “driving.”  He uses the word ’straining’.

I find ‘straining‘ to be such a great word and I think God was very deliberate in using it.  To strain is apply strenuous and continuous effort, pushing forcibly towards something.  The reality is that we only strain when there is opposition of some kind.  We only have to push forcibly if there is something that is opposing us.

Which brings me to my point (I know…finally!).  As Christians, we will never go another day without opposition.  I’ve been guilty of thinking that most of the time my movement to be closer to God and more like Christ should be relatively easy, with occasional times of hardship and opposition.  But I’ve come to the point of believing that such an idea is a fallacy.  If where God wants us to go is life-giving (John 10:10), then the enemy of God wants to steal, kill and destroy us along the way.  He will do anything he can to oppose us, to keep us from the abundant life that Christ intends for us.  We will never have another day without opposition.  Any movement we make or attempt to make will create some friction as we strain against that opposition.

One of the most effective ways to beat any opponent is to understand their tactics and techniques.  Sports teams will scout out their future opponents and watch endless hours of film to see what plays they typically use.  Doing so equips them to recognize those when such plays are coming and counteract them effectively.  As Christ-followers, we can do the same thing with our opposer.  The enemy has certain plays – strategies and tactics – that he uses over and over.  He uses them because they are effective at keeping us from our desires.

Over the next several days, I’m going to explore the four main tactics that the enemy uses, how we can recognize when he’s using them, and ways that we can strain through it toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called us heavenward in Christ Jesus.

Next:  Straining past the enemy’s use of deception.

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the servantI love it when I hear about a hidden gem, like a book that has really impacted a person, or even a whole organization.  Such is the case with the book The Servant.  Though it has been an international best seller, published in a dozen languages with over 2.75 million copies sold, I had never heard about it.  Until a few weeks ago.

Author James C. Hunter has dished up this allegory in Patrick Lencioni style to teach and inspire the reader with the true essence of leadership.  John Daily, the fictional character whose life is beginning to fall apart, reluctantly attends a week-long leadership retreat at a remote monastery.  The people he meets and the concepts they discuss are transformational for him, and for the reader.  I think this is as important and applicable in the family as it is in the workplace.

Make no mistake about it, the main point of this book is that the true essence of leadership is servant leadership.  It makes that point very well, but it’s more than just warm fuzzies or spiritual mandates.  Servant leadership is also the most effective form of leadership.

Hunter does a great job of comparing power to authority.  He defines power as the ability to force or coerce someone  to do your will, even if they would choose not to, because of your position or might.  He defines authority as the skill of getting people to willingly do your will because of your personal influence.  Every leader faces choices as to when to use power and when to use authority.  Hunter makes a compelling case that although power has its place, authority is almost always preferable as a leadership style. “Power erodes relationships.  You can get a few seasons out of power, even accomplish some things, but over time power can be very damaging to relationships.”

The quest then becomes one of how we can develop greater authority.  If authority is indeed the skill of getting people to willingly do your will because of your personal influence, then building your personal influence is key.  The author lays out a normal progression that leads to greater personal influence and authority.  So, it all goes like this:

  • Leadership comes from authority
  • Authority comes from service and sacrifice
  • Service and sacrifice come from love (the verb rather than the noun)
  • Love comes from the will (it is a decision)

There is so much more depth to this, but this gives the guiding framework.

This book is full of great quotes.  One of my favorites is “In the workplace, employees will spend roughly half their waking hours working and living in the environment you create as the leader.”  That is absolutely true.  As leaders, we create the environment in which our people do a whole lot of working and a whole lot of living.

I recommend this as a great read now, at the beginning of 2010.  Enjoy!

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