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Doing More with Less (Part 3)
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One of the most valuable things I do each week is my Weekly Review. This is one of the best takeaways from “Getting Things Done” by David Allen, which I covered last time. It is such a simple idea, yet so powerful. The big idea is to set aside some time each week to get my head empty once again. If you remember from my last post, having things that we know we need to do bouncing around inside our head is the thing that increases stress and decreases productivity. So clearing my head once a week of all those to-do’s and getting myself organized helps me in a multitude of ways.
While there are a lot of different ways to approach a Weekly Review, here’s what I do each week:
- Purge my email inbox – I empty my inbox (I’m going to cover email management in a separate post later this week), and make sure that I capture all to-do’s into my to-do manager.
- Purge my @action folder – This is the email folder where I’ve stored all my emails that needed additional action. I process each one in turn, identifying additional to-do’s and entering them into my to-do manager.
- Purge my paper inbox – This contains any paper correspondence, plus any papers that I’ve accumulated throughout the week that identify things that I didn’t want to forget. Sometimes they’re things that need to be filed, other times there are things that I want to capture. For instance, there might be a note I wrote myself to pick up a book I heard about that someone had read that was transformational. Any to-do’s get added to my to-do manager.
- Review my calendar – I look at my calendar over the next three weeks to see if any of my meetings require special preparation, the kind I can’t do 24 hours before the meeting. For instance, if I have a meeting with senior leadership to discuss a proposal, I have to prepare that proposal. I capture all to-do’s into my to-do’s manager.
- Evaluate previous week’s progress – I look at every major project on my Personal Ministry Plan, plus initiatives I’m working on at home. I celebrate the progress and thank God for His favor.
- Plan the upcoming week’s objectives - Again, looking at all the major initiatives at both work and home, I ask God to show me what He wants me to accomplish in the upcoming week. I do this project by project. It is important to maintain momentum, even if progress is sometimes slower than I would like. During this step, it’s also important to look at how much discretionary time I have in the upcoming week to work on these objectives.
- Adjust due dates of the to-do’s – I modify the due dates in my to-do manager to align with the upcoming week’s objectives. I then look at all to-do’s in due date order for a sanity check, to see if it’s reasonable to expect that I can get all of that accomplished. I adjust the dates if need be.
Once I’ve done this, my head is empty and I feel organized to meet the week. I know this looks like a daunting process, but it only takes me about 60 – 90 minutes. This investment of time pays remarkable dividends in peace and productivity. I simply cannot go without doing my Weekly Review. It’s that powerful.
Next post is on the to-do manager, which is a vital component of the strategy to remain organized.
Doing More with Less (Part 2)
Posted by: | CommentsOne of the most impacting things I’ve done to help manage the insane demands on my time, energy and attention is to read a
book that was recommended by a friend. I’m not into endorsing a lot of products, but this book changed the way I approach my life. The name of the book is ‘Getting Things Done – The Art of Stress-Free Productivity” by David Allen. Before I purchased it, I did a little research and found that it had an almost cult-like following. People who had read the book made all sorts of unbelievable claims about what it had done for them. I was intrigued enough to purchase and read the book.
Let me just say that I was not disappointed. While I have yet to achieve “stress-free productivity,” I was impressed by the author’s understanding of how I think. Within the first 50 pages, he demonstrated that he understood that all of these reminders bouncing around my head at the most inopportune times was both useless and stress-producing. This is not your typical ’system’ approach to time management. I used the Day-Timer system back in the day, and it was good for tracking and prioritizing my schedule, but that was then and this is now. (A Day-Timer calendar page couldn’t even fit all the tasks that are part of a typical day at this point in my life.) Getting Things Done (GTD) first talks about what causes stress and points out how those same things limit our productivity. So many times I found myself saying, “Oh, that’s totally me!”
But the book doesn’t stop at presenting theory. It moves quickly into concrete steps that we can take to set ourselves up for greater productivity with less stress. Chapter 4 is called, “Getting Started: Setting Up the Time, Space and Tools,” and it tells you how to do that. The chapters that follow continue to lay out both the principles and action steps to better personal organization. If you’re one of those people who like to customize everything to your own taste, you can modify the approach as you wish.
I read this book about three years ago and I can’t believe how much it has helped. I am still employing most of the key takeaways, and they continue to help both relieve some of my stress and help me be more productive.
If you’re a busy person who has a ton of responsibilities at work and at home, then I strongly recommend that you give it a read.
Next time I’ll be discussing how I use one of the major concepts in the book – the weekly review.
Doing More with Less (Part 1)
Posted by: | CommentsIt seems as though we’re all being asked and expected to do more and more. This is as true at home as it is at work. Just when we can’t imagine things getting any more busy, they get more busy. Not just a little, but a lot. It’s nuts. And at the same time this is happening, we seem to have less resources to meet the demands. We have less margin in regards to time, energy, money and even relational capacity.
It wasn’t meant to be this way. When Jesus said that he came so that we have life and live it to the full, I don’t think this was the kind of abundance He meant. I don’t think Jesus spread His arms and died on a Roman cross so that we could have the abundance of stress that most of us experience daily. Sometimes I’ll ask myself if others around me would want my life? When the first thing people say when they see me is, “I know how busy you are…” I know that I’m sending a message that I don’t want to send – the message that I’m too busy to enjoy my life.
At the same time, we have to remember that, as Christians, we’re engaged in the battle that wages between this world and God’s Kingdom. It isn’t all about our comfort. We’re going to be inconvenienced and stretched and sometimes even wounded.
How do we reconcile these two positions? I’m not sure there’s a perfect answer, but I think God wants us to be fully committed to what He wants us to do. Far too often we’re fully committed to what we want to do, often even thinking that we’re doing what He would want us to. I believe with all my heart that God will not ask us to blow up our life in order to do His will – His good and perfect will. If we’re finding ourselves constantly stressed out, we have to ask ourselves if that is God’s plan. Is it possible that God’s intention is to have us teetering on the brink of burnout a lot of the time? I have a hard time reconciling that with the God I know.
Anyway, I don’t have all the answers. I’m not even sure I have any answers. But there are a few things that I’m finding to be really valuable in helping me to manage all the things – things that I believe God has put on my plate. Over the next several days, I’m going to be sharing those things and explaining how they work to make my life a bit more manageable.
I’d love this to become a dialog and a sharing of ideas that can bless a lot of folks, so please comment back throughout the week with what is working for you.
Basking in God’s Faithfulness
Posted by: | CommentsRecently, our three and four year old daughters have begun taking turns saying the
family prayers before mealtime. I don’t know that they really understand the concept of God all that well, but they do understand that you thank Him for stuff. So, they mention each person in our family, all their friends, the pets, and activities they remember from the day. Then it’s on to the objects that they can see from where they sit. So cute, so precious, and yes, so long. Their prayers are adorable, and I have to believe that God is delighted, even entertained by them.
While this is pretty common in lots of homes with young children, I think there might be a simple lesson in it for us parents. Maybe God would be delighted to have us thank Him more regularly, and even more naturally. It’s obvious that prayers of praise are the easiest and most natural for a child, but somewhere along the way, the complexities of life turn that upside down, and we have to remind ourselves to constantly thank God.
About three years ago I started a practice that has been awesome. I guess you could call it a spiritual discipline. Each day as I journal (which really helps me to remain focused), I start that interaction with God by recounting His faithfulness throughout the previous 24 hours. I actually make a bullet-pointed list of all the ways that I saw God interact with me throughout the day. I ask God to open my eyes to His goodness and generosity as it played out. It is uncommon for me to have less than 15-20 different times when I encountered God’s abundance. It might be guidance on a project, unexpected encouragement, a moment of wonderment with my child, a stirring of compassion for a friend in need, or a hundred other things. These are the things that fill up my life as I live out John 10:10, “I have come so that they may have life and have it to the full.”
Practicing this discipline has resulted in so many benefits. First, I find myself on the lookout for God’s blessings throughout the day. Second, it makes me so aware of God’s proactive love for me…He’s REALLY active in my life. Third, I know that I’m only aware of a very small fraction of all that he’s really up to, which makes me feel even more loved. And finally, gratitude now consumes my quiet times with God. I still pray for my daily bread and intercede for loved ones, but to do so with a heart already blown away by the loving kindness of a King puts me in the right place.
I challenge you to try this out for a week. See if God doesn’t meet you in it.
Stepping Into His Will
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Scott Chapman has been teaching over many weeks about surrender – giving God the last 10% of ourselves. I am so inspired to live that way, but it seems so stinking difficult. Am I alone in feeling frustrated by how hard that seems?
This journey seems a lot like standing in an empty warehouse. It is pitch black and you hear nothing but the sound of your own breathing. The absence of light makes it impossible to see even your own hand in front of your face. But one thing is visible in the midst of that darkness. As you move tentatively towards it, you realize that there is light after all. You find yourself looking at one single, strong beam of bright light shining down from the ceiling that creates a circle of light on the floor. The spotlight from which the light emanates represents God, and the light coming from Him represents His will, His good perfect and pleasing will. 1 John 1:5 says, “God is light; in Him there is no darkness at all.”
When I step out of my darkness into that light, I’m enveloped into the warmth of His will. And it’s in that place that I am best positioned for His blessing. When I’m standing there, it seems that God can most easily pour out His abundance on me. That’s where He can heap His blessings upon me.
But we like to stay in the shadows and call out to God, don’t we? “Bring some of that blessing over here, God!” We want to live in the shadow of our own will, hoping that God will still bless us. But how unloving would that be of God? If He knows His best for us exists in the light, it would be terribly unloving for Him to encourage us in any way to stay outside of it. It would be like giving your kids candy while they play in the middle of a busy road. No loving parent would or even could do that.
I’m not sure why I so consistently want to spend time in the shadows, trusting in my own will rather than His. Compared to “good and perfect,” my will seems pretty pathetic.
God, increase our faith, that we might trust that Your will is good and perfect. Give us courage to give you the last 10%.
Time Out
Posted by: | CommentsLibi is our four year old who we adopted from China last November. I’m amazed at how well she’s picked up our language and culture in such a short time. She loves french fries from McDonalds more than just about anything. She loves to run and play and squeal – noises that no male is capable of producing. She likes to chase and be chased, to be caught by her daddy and tickled mercilessly. She’s a typical four year old, complete with the tantrums and illogical responses. I just don’t remember this level of opposition from our other children, though the next oldest is 17. Since I can’t remember what happened last week, I’m not surprised that I have blocked out such memories.
Yesterday I was hanging with Libi and her younger sister, Gabby. We were having a great time, until we weren’t. I’m not sure
exactly what triggered it, but all of a sudden I had a little monster on my hands. (I must admit to having the thought at times, “Perhaps this is why some species eat their young.”) She was belligerent, loud and antagonistic. Ok, she was just having a four year old moment. But it was clear that I needed to nip that in the bud before it became the pattern for the day. So, I sent her to her little time out mat in the living room. As I followed her into the room to set the timer, she went to sit 10 feet away from the mat. Of course, I told her to move. She gave me all the angst and attitude that her cute little face could muster, but she moved. I set the timer for four minutes (I can’t remember, was that one minute or one hour for each year of life?). As the minutes ticked away, I found myself thinking that life would be so much better if she wasn’t such a control freak. If she could just trust that her Mom and I have her best interests in mind and relax under our leadership, life would be so much easier for her and us.
This morning I got to thinking a lot about that time out, and especially my thoughts about her need for control and her difficulty in trusting us. It made me sad thinking that maybe she’ll never really trust us. Maybe her background in an orphanage predestined her to such an attitude towards her new parents, who just want to love her with all that we have. But then a very clear question came to mind. Am I really any different? God loves me with all that He has. Life would be so much easier if I could just trust that He has my best interests in mind and relaxed under His leadership. Perhaps it’s me that is the control freak. Maybe God feels the same sadness as I struggle and fight His attempts to bring me His best for my life. I wonder if it makes Him sad.
It’s pretty unsettling to find that there’s still a lot of four year old in me. I guess I’m the one who needs a time out after all.
Sorry, Daddy.